Someone who gaslights and gatekeeps generally isn’t a great person, which is why the inclusion of “girlboss” in the phrase is so interesting. In the same way, the term’s popularization makes the behavior easier to call out. Gatekeeping, like gaslighting, is a term that describes a manipulative behavior made popular on the internet. There’s a whole gatekeeping subreddit dedicated to calling out this behavior. If a punk music fan tells you that you can’t wear that shirt if you can’t name five Nirvana songs, that’s gatekeeping. Gatekeeping is, according to Urban Dictionary, “when someone takes it upon themselves to decide who does or does not have access or rights to a community or identity.” It’s used to make the gatekeeper feel superior to others on the outside or more deserving of an identity.įor instance, maybe you’re wearing a Nirvana shirt from Urban Outfitters. “Gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss” doesn’t encourage gaslighting - it pokes fun at people who do, and thus makes it easier to identify and destigmatizes calling it out.

She identified this to her audience as gaslighting, and she told In The Know that it helped her audience realize that exact thing had been happening to them, though they didn’t know what to call it. Update your settings here to see it.įor instance, in December, TikToker Dana Pizzarelli went viral for calling out her boyfriend who denied doing something she saw happen with her own eyes. This content is not available due to your privacy preferences.

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